After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night
...So this is what pain is?
...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

Oh no - that's awful! Have you two spoken about it?

No not yet... she doesn't know that i know...

Its seriously fucking horrible... you see it in all the movies and magazines, but it really is just the worst feeling ever

I don't think she's been seeing him long... but i dont know how long she's actually known him for.

I'm gonna try and see if she'll come round this weekend, and i'll tell her i know about it...
The thing is, i know i haven't been the best boyfriend, and i should've seen this coming, but i know that i love her more than anyone ever will... and i just want her to be happy. I don't blame her for doing it, its only human - to want to spend more time with someone that makes you feel all warm inside... but it still hurts
Hopefully he's just some kind of rebound... to not feel lonely, and only temporary... but who knows...
I'm not sure if he even knows about me...

This forum has some seriously cool people on it

I've been playing guitar for three years now. My hands constantly break, I suck at playing, it seems I can't learn a fucking thing anymore, am frustrated as hell and I want to break things and kill myself.

After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night




...So this is what pain is?



...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

so dump the bitch and get wasted with friends. if shes gonna cheat on your ass, shes not right for you and doesent love you. find someone who does.

After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night




...So this is what pain is?



...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

so dump the bitch and get wasted with friends. if shes gonna cheat on your ass, shes not right for you and doesent love you. find someone who does.

Strip club time!!!

After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night
...So this is what pain is?
...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

Oh no - that's awful! Have you two spoken about it?

No not yet... she doesn't know that i know...

Its seriously fucking horrible... you see it in all the movies and magazines, but it really is just the worst feeling ever

I don't think she's been seeing him long... but i dont know how long she's actually known him for.

I'm gonna try and see if she'll come round this weekend, and i'll tell her i know about it...
The thing is, i know i haven't been the best boyfriend, and i should've seen this coming, but i know that i love her more than anyone ever will... and i just want her to be happy. I don't blame her for doing it, its only human - to want to spend more time with someone that makes you feel all warm inside... but it still hurts
Hopefully he's just some kind of rebound... to not feel lonely, and only temporary... but who knows...
I'm not sure if he even knows about me...

This forum has some seriously cool people on it

There are lots of cool people here!

Seriously Aden, if you really love this girl it's great that you're giving her a chance to talk it out with you. It's very easy to judge a situation based on the end result....but there's usually lots of other things going on underneath the surface - people are complex creatures. If she wants to give your relationship a chance and you feel you can trust her again, then you can work together to make things stronger between you. If she doesn't, and there is always that possibility, then you may have to just accept her decision and walk away for the time being, hard as it would be for you (and probably for her too, if she's being honest). I won't insult you by suggesting there are plenty of other fish in the sea, but there are girls out there who would appreciate someone caring about them as you obviously do about her.

Talk to her soon either way - I hope things go well for you.

un-awesome = tax season

After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night




...So this is what pain is?



...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

so dump the bitch and get wasted with friends. if shes gonna cheat on your ass, shes not right for you and doesent love you. find someone who does.

It's harsh, but it's the rule I've always bided by. If you love someone that much, you don't cheat. Simple as. I can understand why you want to forge the relationship though, and sometimes it does work.

I've been cheated on twice before, and both times I left the relationship. I tried overlooking it in one, but it just felt wrong and awkward, and I just couldn't love someone that treated me that way. (I sound so serious for an 18 yr old, jeez )
You have to seriously think that if you get back and sort everything out, will you really be able to trust her again fully?
You also have to let her know (if you do get back together) its not a cae of "Oh its okay, I forgive you and I always will do." You have to make sure that if she does act that again, it's totally not acceptable and could end your relationship.

I know it hurts and it sucks, I really am sorry for you. I hope you manage to get things sorted out.

After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night




...So this is what pain is?



...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

It's harsh, but it's the rule I've always bided by. If you love someone that much, you don't cheat. Simple as. I can understand why you want to forge the relationship though, and sometimes it does work.

I've been cheated on twice before, and both times I left the relationship. I tried overlooking it in one, but it just felt wrong and awkward, and I just couldn't love someone that treated me that way. (I sound so serious for an 18 yr old, jeez )
You have to seriously think that if you get back and sort everything out, will you really be able to trust her again fully?
You also have to let her know (if you do get back together) its not a cae of "Oh its okay, I forgive you and I always will do." You have to make sure that if she does act that again, it's totally not acceptable and could end your relationship.

I know it hurts and it sucks, I really am sorry for you. I hope you manage to get things sorted out.

The thing is, its not HER thats doing this... this is some confused, messed up mind version of her at the minute thats making her act like this and do these things... so i still love her so unbelievably much, and i know i'd be so happy if she wanted me back... because i'd know i have the real her back again...

I wish she'd realise again, how special it is what we had...

"(I sound so serious for an 18 yr old)"

Thats exactly how i feel!... im only 17, 18 in 37 days... but i know i could really marry this girl. I hate saying it, cus all the older people here probably just look at it as "some little kid caught up in his teenage fantasy world"... but i consider myself a very mature (minded) person... and i can totally understand and see what people mean by that, but its not for this case...

I've never had a real relationship before (god... just adds to the thing i just said about)... the longest i ever had was for about a week...

I've known her since i was 9... we've always been such good friends... not exactly close, but really working well together, same sense of humour, same respect for each other... and we made each other feel so special and 'loved' when we first got together, it was amazing...

And the fact i've known her for so long, and in all that time never even came close to finding anyone for me... yet one day we just fell into each others arms... what we had was so rare and special... and i really do know she was pretty much perfect for me

Basically the reason it all went wrong, is that i suffer from depression... My dad had it, and it runs in families doesn't it...
I and her even thought i could even be bi-polar ... but not a strong case of it... i dunno
But i used to feel low too often... i got caught in some stupid "dreamworld" state (not a good dreamworld though)... and it made it really hard for me to realise how grateful i am to have her...
I, stupidly, have self harmed quite a bit, towards the end of our relationship...
Really fucking stupid of me... but its completely not me whatsoever... it was just me caught in this weird 'state'...
But all of this has slapped me in the face and fiiiinally waken me up... i feel exactly the same as i did when we first got together... i know, that if i have her, i wont feel low... because im so grateful...
I've tried to explain it to her, but she's finding it hard to listen to... especially now she's seeing someone new.


Sorry for being so depressing on here ...ignore me if you cant be arsed with it

After things seeming to get nothing but worse since i last posted, about me n my girlfriend...

...i find out today that she brought a random lad back to her house on sunday night




...So this is what pain is?



...yeah it hurts quite fucking bad

It's harsh, but it's the rule I've always bided by. If you love someone that much, you don't cheat. Simple as. I can understand why you want to forge the relationship though, and sometimes it does work.

I've been cheated on twice before, and both times I left the relationship. I tried overlooking it in one, but it just felt wrong and awkward, and I just couldn't love someone that treated me that way. (I sound so serious for an 18 yr old, jeez )
You have to seriously think that if you get back and sort everything out, will you really be able to trust her again fully?
You also have to let her know (if you do get back together) its not a cae of "Oh its okay, I forgive you and I always will do." You have to make sure that if she does act that again, it's totally not acceptable and could end your relationship.

I know it hurts and it sucks, I really am sorry for you. I hope you manage to get things sorted out.

The thing is, its not HER thats doing this... this is some confused, messed up mind version of her at the minute thats making her act like this and do these things... so i still love her so unbelievably much, and i know i'd be so happy if she wanted me back... because i'd know i have the real her back again...

I wish she'd realise again, how special it is what we had...

"(I sound so serious for an 18 yr old)"

Thats exactly how i feel!... im only 17, 18 in 37 days... but i know i could really marry this girl. I hate saying it, cus all the older people here probably just look at it as "some little kid caught up in his teenage fantasy world"... but i consider myself a very mature (minded) person... and i can totally understand and see what people mean by that, but its not for this case...

I've never had a real relationship before (god... just adds to the thing i just said about)... the longest i ever had was for about a week...

I've known her since i was 9... we've always been such good friends... not exactly close, but really working well together, same sense of humour, same respect for each other... and we made each other feel so special and 'loved' when we first got together, it was amazing...

And the fact i've known her for so long, and in all that time never even came close to finding anyone for me... yet one day we just fell into each others arms... what we had was so rare and special... and i really do know she was pretty much perfect for me

Basically the reason it all went wrong, is that i suffer from depression... My dad had it, and it runs in families doesn't it...
I and her even thought i could even be bi-polar ... but not a strong case of it... i dunno
But i used to feel low too often... i got caught in some stupid "dreamworld" state (not a good dreamworld though)... and it made it really hard for me to realise how grateful i am to have her...
I, stupidly, have self harmed quite a bit, towards the end of our relationship...
Really fucking stupid of me... but its completely not me whatsoever... it was just me caught in this weird 'state'...
But all of this has slapped me in the face and fiiiinally waken me up... i feel exactly the same as i did when we first got together... i know, that if i have her, i wont feel low... because im so grateful...
I've tried to explain it to her, but she's finding it hard to listen to... especially now she's seeing someone new.


Sorry for being so depressing on here ...ignore me if you cant be arsed with it

We expect depressing in the unawesome thread!

It doesn't matter that you're 'only 17', pain at any age is still pain, and what she did, especially with you feeling so strongly about her, was extremely hurtful, and would be hurtful even if you were 80. One thing I will say (from my many years of experience....fetch me a zimmer someone!) is that to depend your entire happiness on another human being is always going to cause problems. Whether or not she decides to stay with you, she's just a human. We all make mistakes, and we are all dumb sometimes, and on occasion some of us can be deliberately hurtful. I don't want to sound cynical, and I'm not talking about never trusting anyone with your feelings again, I'm just saying that although you can have happy times with a person, and you should enjoy them, you also need to accept that that person may cause you unhappiness too at times (even if you both love each other). Accepting that helps when hard times come along.

Oh, and I agree with Amber, if you feel you can't forgive her for what she's done (especially if she's not shown any evidence of being sorry for it) then I'd suggest not getting back with her anyway. The mistrust will only sour the relationship, even if you keep it hidden.

There are plenty of happy singletons, and plenty of unhappy married people..so having someone in your life isn't necessarily the key to happiness....

If you think you might be bi-polar...have you seen anyone about it? I don't want to nag either....but if you have been self-harming as well, please, please, please go and see a doctor. Soon.

My little Betta fish died today

Poor thing lived longer than my sister's fish and my mom's. Even though my mom got hers like a month after she bought me and my sister each one as a gift.

I might get another one, not sure yet.

My little Betta fish died today

Poor thing lived longer than my sister's fish and my mom's. Even though my mom got hers like a month after she bought me and my sister each one as a gift.

I might get another one, not sure yet.

Oh that sucks man. i thought those things average life span was only upposed to be like a week though. My sister had one once, but i cant remember how long it lived. We had a an Oscar fish named Jack that lived to be 9 or 10 years old

My fish lived for over a year, or at least close to a year...

I had a goldfish once that lived for close to 3-5 years. He was huge when he finally died, we moved him into a nice big tank with some other fish and he just got bigger and bigger.

Navy in less than four hours. Silly mandatory military service. See you in a few weeks.

Bah, good luck man!

God. I'd hate that.. I never knew Norway had mandatory military service.. Ah I'm sure it'll be over quick. Maybe, in keeping with your avatar, jizz in your pants at random intervals so they might send you home faster.